‘Daddy’ Is the New MILF, And Younger Women Can't Get Enough of Older Guys

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According to porn site xHamster’s Trend Report 2018, it was revealed that last year, “daddy” was the number one top search term for women in America, which suggests a lot of ladies out there are becoming increasingly interested getting all sorts of intimate with older, more mature gentlemen.

Plus, according to a report released by Pornhub, daddy porn is extremely popular, and women are going absolutely gaga over hairy older dudes. Seriously. The report reads: “We found confirmation that ‘dad bod’ is indeed sexy, along with ‘black daddy,’ ‘big daddy’ and ‘hairy daddy.’ Even ‘DILF’ (the dad equivalent of MILF) makes an appearance, along with ‘call me daddy’ and ‘daddy’s little princess.’”

Sooo...why are women so fascinated by daddies? What’s going on? Was Freud right all along and we're all kind of attracted to our parents and we don’t even realize it??


In a previous article on why women call men "daddy," we told you that it 99.9 percent of the time, it has absolutely nothing to do with the Electra Complex, nor does it have anything to do with daddy issues.

Sex therapist Vanessa Marin told Broadly: “Yes, ‘daddy’ can mean ‘father,’ but we also use the word to indicate when someone is the boss, in charge, a protector, or doing a good job. That’s usually the meaning women are going for in the bedroom. It’s a bit of a '70s porn cliche. I’ve never run across a woman who called her partner ‘daddy’ because she genuinely liked fantasizing that he was her father.”

Yeah, Freud would have been pissed to hear this. But then again, there's the teeny-tiny population of daddy fetishists who literally pretend they're father-daughter and do some unfathomably kinky shit. Those people probably do have legit daddy issues, and have some kind of unresolved hang-up that led to an unhealthy father fixation.


As an alternate explanation, sexpert Dr. Nikki Goldstein explains that some women are turned on by “daddies” because it makes them feel young and innocent -- like a virgin, as Madonna once said.

“It conjures up a sexy little virginal girl being naughty who gives the daddy the authority,” she says. “However, it’s usually just a pet name, or used as an accolade to a man’s power and masculinity.”

To elaborate on that last bit on masculinity, females are evolutionarily wired to desire masculine, powerful, authoritative men, since it indicates their ability to provide for and protect his partner and offspring. And since we evolve at a glacial pace, this biological quality hasn’t been bred out of our DNA yet, which is why a ton of women have the hots for daddies.


Well, now that we’ve established some deeply rooted psychological theories on daddy fetishes, let’s move on to why there’s so much daddy porn on the internet these days.

“When women search daddy porn, it taps into their idea of an exciting fantasy,” Goldstein says. “It’s got the key elements. Being taboo and having an authority figure in charge are very normalized triggers.”

“So you’ve got a taboo fantasy play that turns people on, plus you’ve also got the submission. Also, as the content is morally wrong and extreme, it feels naughty. Even if it is acting; so for some, it becomes sexy.” And we all know that taboo and restricted things are exciting, because we’re naturally drawn to things that are off-limits. It’s just human nature.

And lastly, I feel I should conclude by emphasizing that there's a significant distinction between women who are attracted to daddies for the sake of being with a masculine, authoritative man, as opposed to women who have sugar daddies. Even though the two terms are closely related and sometimes overlap, women usually have sugar daddies for the sole purpose of being smothered in Chanel bags and Gucci purses.  

H/T: New York Post