Oral sex is a delicate art that every man should master, but you already know what you’re doing, right? Right. But since there is literally no limit to how good something can feel, sex and relationship expert and resident sexologist for Astroglide, Dr. Jess, took to Reddit to offer her ultimate guide on going down on a woman like a pro, so that we can get even better at it.
Take notes, gentlemen.
1. Take your time.
Dr. Jess says: "When we’re excited, our minds race and our bodies stumble to keep pace. In the heat of the moment, our caresses often become slovenly gropes and our lustful kisses deteriorate into something from a bad romance novel."
That said, be aware of what your body parts are doing. Keep your touch gentle and concise instead of sloppily pawing at whatever boob or butt cheek you can get your hands on.
2. Do this lube trick.
"Apply a drop of lube and run your nose down the center of her vulva – roll it around in large circles around the edges or slide it right inside as you nod your head up and down and back and forth. Breathe deeply and let your natural sounds flow freely to let her know just how much you love it."
3. Use some suction.
"Open your mouth as wide as you can and press it against her vulva. Suck away as you roll your tongue around the edges of your lips to create your own suction cup."
In layman’s terms, what Dr. Jess is saying here is to create a vacuum with your mouth and suck on her honey pot with the force of a supermassive black hole. My suggestion is to do this at a moment when she’s not looking at you, because for the majority of average sex-doers, opening your mouth as wide as you can over her vagina probably doesn’t look very erotic.
4. Use your entire hand to massage her vagina.
Dr. Jess recommends kneading her box like pizza dough, because she’s probably never had her vagina kneaded, and novelty is a great thing in the bedroom.
"Forget fingering (for now) and use your entire hand to take her pleasure to new heights. Place a flat hand against her vulva (as though you’re cupping it) and apply pressure as you slide up and down. You’ll need lots of lube for this one!"
5. Focus on her clitoris, obviously.
"Her inner clitoris is just as important as the pearl-like head that peers over the top of her vulva -- the legs and bulbs can be stimulated through her labia with the right amount of pressure. Use the tip of your tongue to tease between her lips during the early stages of foreplay and use your lips and cheeks (covered in lube) to increase the pressure."
So basically, you should press your entire face into her vagina. Cheeks, lips...maybe even your forehead if you feel so inclined.
"As she gets closer to orgasm, stroke your tongue from the head of her clitoris right down to the fourchette (where the lips meet at the bottom) while pressing your thumbs firmly into the fleshy parts of her outer lips so that she has a grounded surface against which to grind."
6. Try different positions.
"Most couples engage in oral with the receiving partner on their back. This not only limits their sexual repertoire, but the repetition can render even the hottest techniques boring. Change things up with these suggestions."
- Flip her onto her stomach.
- Ask her to get down all fours.
- Pull her legs off the side of the bed.
- Have her bend one leg up onto the couch while standing.
- Place her ankles in her hands while she lies on her back.
- Let her sit on your face and wrap her legs right around you.
- Lie on your sides facing one another.
- Lift her onto the kitchen counter and pull up a chair.
Well, hopefully you learned something new today. Now go put these tips to good use.
Have fun, my dudes.