If there’s one thing hotter than perfectly executed dirty talk, it’s perfectly executed dirty talk during sex. Seriously--a lot of people underestimate the power of a few naughty words in the throes of passion.
But in all honesty, some words are more effective than others, and it's important to know which words are really going to make her go crazy for you. “Words that help her feel wanted, desired, and sexy are going to usually universally trigger women,” says Jaiya, a sex educator and author of Cuffed, Tied, and Satisfied: A Kinky Guide to the Best Sex Ever.
“We’re attracted to men who are certain and decisive,” says DeAnna Lorraine, a Los Angeles-based dating coach. “When a man speaks like that—‘yes’ or ‘absolutely’—it shows that certainty.”
“If she lets out a moan and you say, ‘yes,’ it gives her permission to go even deeper into her pleasure,” she adds. “It helps her let go.”
2. Her name
“Female pleasure is narcissistic,” Jaiya says. “Hearing her name makes her feel special. It’s about her, like, you’re the irresistible one. You’re the one with the magic hoo-hoo. It’s not about someone random.”
Just make sure you say the right name, or else you'll have one very unhappy woman on your hands.
You don't have to say "I love you" if you don't love her, but telling her you love her body, or you love touching her, will get her really hot and bothered.
“The connotation of ‘love’ is intense and special,” says Arlene Goldman, Ph.D., a sex therapist in Philadelphia and author of Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy. “’I like the way you look’ is lukewarm, but ‘I love the way you look’ sounds very positive and passionate.”
Obviously, this word refers to her naughty bits, and is a very powerful word to use in bed because “every woman wants to feel like she’s virgin-esque to her man,” Lorraine explains. “It’s assurance that she’s making her man feel good and he’s aroused.”
Bonus tip: “Actually describe to her how good she feels inside."
When you're turned on, there's no hiding your boner. It's very obvious when a dude is hot in the pants. But it's pretty hard to tell when she's turned on, which is why you should tell her how wet she is.
“That’s a very intimate thing—you’re both in on the secret, that she’s turned on by you,” Lorraine says.
You don't even need to wait until she's actually wet, because “the brain sometimes doesn’t know the difference between what is real and what isn’t,” Jaiya explains. “When you tell a woman, ‘You’re getting so wet,’ her body will respond.”
If you only say "I'm really turned on," it's very generic and doesn't say anything about how she turns you on. That's why Goldman suggests saying "You really turn me on" -- it emphasizes the woman.
“She wants to know that there’s something about her that is arousing to you,” Goldman explains. Or, as Jaiya puts it, “Tell her how she’s affecting you. That lets a woman know she is desired.”
According to Jaiya, women are aroused by the word "cock," and not by the words "penis," "prick," or "dick."
“Dick is more derogatory, like, ‘He’s a dick,’ or it’s a joke word,” she says. “But cock is very strong and masculine.”
8. “Hot Pocket”
For some inexplicable reason, women are apparently turned on by the term "hot pocket." Why? I don't know. I really, really don't know. And frankly, I'm not sure if I agree with this.
“If your woman has a sense of humor, don’t be afraid of funny words," Jaiya says, encouraging all you dudes out there to casually call your girlfriend's vagina a hot pocket.
I, however, would advise strict caution when using that word in bed, because not all women will find it sexy when you call her vagina a hot pocket.
Fun fact: Women love feeling desired, and they love it when you show her how much you want her. “We want to know you’re going crazy for us,” Lorraine says.
That said, start telling her how much you need her. Say something like "I need you so bad," and watch in amazement at how fast her panties drop.
Here are some words of wisdom coming from a woman: There are few things hotter than when a man says "Come for me" during sex. Speaking from experience here.
And according to a recent study published in the journal Sexuality & Culture, "come" is the only word in the English language that "simultaneously conveys desire, pleasure, orgasm, and loss of control."
Play with orgasm control, like ‘You’re not allowed to come,’” Jaiya suggests. “Playing with that word within a power dynamic can be really hot.”
H/T: Men's Health