Here’s How Long Great Foreplay Should Last

It’s a lot longer than you think.


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Nine out of ten experts agree that when done right, women really, really enjoy foreplay, because foreplay is amazing. Honestly, I just made that statistic up, but just know that women love great foreplay. 

In fact, some might argue that it’s better than actual P-in-V sex, because the buildup of sexual tension that comes from getting handsy with one another is downright otherworldly.

But sadly, many of us don’t pay enough attention to this very important part of sex, therefore it doesn’t last as long as it should. Why? I don’t know. I really don’t. But what I do know is that it’s really unfortunate that we’re not having enough foreplay. 

In a new episode of the video series sexplanations, sexologist Lindsey Doe talks about the scientific subtleties of the perfect foreplay, and offers some advice on what makes great foreplay, well, great.

The main point Doe makes is that basically everyone on earth just wants to have more foreplay. That’s all they want. More foreplay. What this means is that foreplay is most definitely not over the minute your boner is ready to party, gentlemen. And we all know that happens pretty fast.

According to the video, the average foreplay time is 13 minutes, except for British people, who fool around for a whopping 22.5 minutes. Daaamn. They obviously know whats up.

Anyway, the rest of us who aren’t British foreplay masters wholeheartedly wish the act would last juuust a little bit longer, ideally around 18 minutes. But how are we going to accomplish this? Surely not by brute force and a stopwatch. That would probably promptly kill the mood… unless you’re into that stuff.

Wink wink.

Doe says the secret to great, long-lasting foreplay is to talk with your partner about what you think foreplay is, and make it something more than a chore you have to finish in order to get to the goodies.

“Foreplay doesn’t have to build up to something more important. It can be what’s more important,” she says, echoing mine and millions of women’s thoughts exactly.

But heavy petting for 20 minutes, or an extra lengthy blowjob for half an hour or something would probably get a little boring, right? Right. That’s why you need to broaden your horizons and include more sex things under the umbrella term “foreplay.” 

In case you’re drawing a blank, here are some sexy ideas to take foreplay to the next level:

  • Give her a long, sensual massage, because a sexy massage will always lead to sex.
  • Ask her to strip for you instead of tearing her clothes off.
  • Take a shower together.
  • Two words: lap dance.
  • Start getting frisky before you reach the bedroom.

There you have it, folks. The perfect foreplay.