6 Ways to Make Things Just a Little Kinkier in the Bedroom
Why not?
Kinky is one of the best things you can be — and it’s a lot more common than you’d think. Having kinky sex means straying from your regular routine, making the ol’ romp in the hay just a little more exciting. And while it does involve less-than-vanilla stuff, it’s not all sex dungeons and hot wax.
Now that that’s cleared up, please enjoy this list of ways to get just a little kinkier in (and out of) the boudoir:
Experiment with bondage.
Full-on BDSM with ball gags and nipple clamps might be a little too intense for beginners, but some light bondage is always a good time. And it’s actually healthy! You can be super mild and tie her hands above her head or behind her back with stockings or a belt (or have her tie yours) — or you could use handcuffs or get hogtied. Whatever floats your boat.
Break out a blindfold.
Blindfolding introduces an element of surprise, which takes things from dull to passionate instantly. Not knowing where your lover is going to touch you next, or her waiting in anticipation for your next move will magnify sexual arousal and tension like you won’t believe. Plus, because your sense of sight will be inactive, your other senses will compensate, making every inch of your body that much more sensitive.
Play around with different lubes and stimulating oils.
Most couples don’t think they need lube, but you should really drop that idea, because that little bottle is your most trusted wingman. Just a little bit can make a massive difference in sensations — the wetter the better. And here’s the best tip you’ll ever hear: put a tiny bit of the stuff inside a condom before putting it on. It’ll make everything feel a thousand times better.
Now for the kinky part — stimulating lubes and oils are a gift, because no matter how innocent the concept may seem, subtle new sensations can be orgasm worthy. Warming lubes? Amazing. Arousal oils? Try just a drop on her clitoris. Trust us.
Pick up some lingerie and try out some role-playing.
Lingerie exists for a reason, my friend. Go out and buy her the sexiest set of lingerie you’d love to see her in, have her put it on, and enjoy the show. Have a secret fantasy about role-play? Now’s the time to explore it.
Have sex outside of the bedroom.
They don’t say hotel sex is the best sex for nothing. When you get it on someplace outside of your own familiar bedroom, your brain releases an extra burst of dopamine, making sex extra delicious. Have sex on the kitchen table, in the broom closet, in the bathroom of that seedy diner you both love, or in the great outdoors – just make sure nobody sees you doing the deed.
Try out some sex toys.
Sex toys are the holy grail of naughty, kinky sex, and the best part is that there are so many different sex toys you can play around with that you’ll never get bored. Now, before you try getting each other to use bedazzled butt plugs, it’s best to start out simple with something like a vibrator, then build up from there.
Most importantly, don’t forget to communicate, because kinky sex won’t happen unless you’re on the same page. Have fun.
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