Science Has Good News for Men Worried About Coming Too Soon

We all have a “friend” who’ll probably benefit from reading this. 

How many times have we seen this scenario played out: A man slumps over in bed after a particularly quick round of sex, sheepishly apologizing with “This doesn’t usually happen to me.” The woman, for her part, mutters something to the tune of, “That’s okay, it happens to everyone.” Then you both get up and go make a sandwich, because there’s nothing left for you here. Surrender to the post-coital snack.

If you’ve ever felt anxious about completing your mission to abruptly, you’re about to get a big boost to your self-esteem. A new study in the Journal of Clinical Anatomy suggests that premature ejaculation (PE), often viewed as sexual dysfunction and treated with pills (and shame), is completely normal. According to lead author Dr. Vincenzo Puppo, there’s no actual biological “dysfunction” at play here — your rate of ejaculation has to do with age and a range of other factors. Men who are younger have less control, and men who are older produce less spermatozoa. As it turns out, “it happens to everyone” is absolutely true. 

“The man with PE is often embarrassed or depressed about his plight, which he regards as reflecting poorly on his manhood,” Puppo writes. “Sexual medicine experts, endocrinologists, urologists, andrologists, and sexologists must acknowledge that PE is not a disease and must not be classified as a male sexual dysfunction, and that it is normal for any healthy adolescent man owing to his inexperience in sexual matters.”

His suggestion? Practice your kegels while you jerk off. Training yourself to stop and start can give you longer stamina in bed, sans pills. Easy come, easy go.

While this study doesn’t appear to have surveyed men about their frequency (or lack thereof) of premature ejaculation and instead explored the science behind that governs the male orgasm, it does have a positive message: We’re all completely normal. 

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