How Often Should You Watch Porn Together?

It turns out, there’s a right answer.

When things get dull in the boudoir, there are plenty of strategies you can try to spice things up. You can visit a sex toy shop together. You can, if you’re brave, buy her some lingerie. You can even take a naked yoga class.

Or you can save a lot of money and time and just open your laptop and watch some porn together. But just how often should you do it to keep it exciting? Every other day? Once a month? Only on leap day?

According to Dr. Justin Lehmiller, long story short, you should only watch porn with your significant other/fuck-buddy on rare occasions. Why? Because it keeps the experience novel, and basically, only novel experiences are exciting.

When you watch porn together for the very first time, your brain gets all excited from this new and novel sexual experience, so it releases extra bursts of dopamine, which is the hormone responsible for feelings of euphoria. And each time you watch porn together after that, your brain releases less and less dopamine, and after a while, it becomes a regular event for you two, making sex dull and boring again.

This rule goes for anything you do in the bedroom to make sex more exciting, like using sex toys, or bondage. The more often you do it, the less novel it becomes, thus being counteractive, since you introduced it to make things more fun, not routine.

Through something called the Coolidge Effect, we know that sexual novelty is what keeps people happy, so it’s no secret that the key to keeping your relationship passionate is to keep experiences feeling new, which is what watching porn together, but only on occasion, does.

We already told you that hotel sex is the best sex because you’re doing it in unfamiliar surroundings, and you don’t have hotel sex very often, do you? No, you don’t, which is why it’s spectacular. Just keep that in mind when gauging when to whip out your laptop or sex toys or whatever.