Does your girlfriend or wife look bored as hell during and after sex? Does she openly tell you that she didn’t come yet, as you roll over and pass out for your post-sex nap? Well, the problem isn’t her lack of horniness, my friends. Odds are, the problem is you.
When I say the problem is you, I don’t mean she hates you or thinks you suck at sex, or anything. What I mean is that you might be taking a very wrong approach when trying to get her off, which is something many, many dudes do, considering the massive number of women who don't orgasm during sex. Just being real, here.
According to a study conducted by Chapman University, Indiana University, and the Kinsey Institute, it would appear as though the “orgasm gap” you’ve been hearing about is very real, and women have orgasms way less often than men do. I mean, we already knew this, but science just confirmed it.
For the study, the researchers surveyed over 52,000 people, and found that men have an orgasm rate of 95 percent, which means they come nearly every single time they have sex, and that’s good. Well done, guys. I’m assuming that remaining 5 percent is reserved for unfortunate whiskey dick situations, or something.
On the other hand, it was found that when women have sex, they only orgasm 65 percent of the time. That’s a huge difference, my friends. While I understand that women are notoriously difficult to get off and their vaginas seem like they were literally designed to cause confusion and chaos, there are ways to get the job done. Come on, fellas. It’s up to you to raise that sad 65 percent all the way up to 100.
And just what are the very best ways to get your ladyfriend to orgasm?
Well, according to the women in the study, she’ll be more likely to get off if the sexual encounter includes: “deep kissing, manual genital stimulation, and/or oral sex in addition to vaginal intercourse.”
Hear that? P-in-V sex alone is not enough, which makes it worse that 30 percent of men think the sex part of sex is the best way for women to have an orgasm. Dr. Elizabeth Lloyd, co-author of the study, says this sad fact is “sort of a tragic figure because it couldn’t be more incorrect.”
The researchers call the trifecta of "deep kissing, manual genital stimulation, and oral sex" the "Golden Trio" of getting a woman to orgasm, so maybe you should start doing those things in succession if your girlfriend isn't the easiest person to get off.
And here’s something else you should know: compared to women who orgasm less frequently, women who get off often really make it worth your while. The study found that women who orgasm more frequently are more likely to:
- Have sex for longer
- Send you raunchy sexts
- Wear sexy lingerie
- Try freaky sex positions
- Butt stuff!
- Act out fantasies
- Talk dirty
Is that incentive enough for you? It should be. Get busy, gentlemen.