Here Are The Real Reasons Why Women Don’t Hook Up With ‘Nice Guys’

“I’m not like other guys” my ass.


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I think we’ve all heard of the “nice guy” stereotype. You know, the guy who (supposedly) cares deeply about a woman’s feelings, and does everything a fairy tale boyfriend should do.

Before we go on, let’s establish the difference between a kindhearted individual and a nice guy. Someone who is genuinely a good person is a kind man, whereas a nice guy is just a wannabe who creates an illusion of vulnerability and spends most of his time kissing the ass of his attractive female friends. Not cute.

Thanks to movies and TV shows, we’re under the impression that the nice guy always gets the girl. But here’s the dealio – in real life, nice guys actually suck, and do not get the girl, hence the idiom “nice guys always finish last.”

Well, good luck getting laid, buddy.

Apparently, this breed of dude does certain things they’re pretty sure will get them laid, but instead, it has a paradoxical effect and the women retreat in haste, leaving the nice guy in the friendzone, or worse: the you-really-suck zone.

Why do you think this happens? Well, thanks to some ladies on Reddit who have generously shared their experiences and opinions on nice guys, we now have an idea as to why they never get laid.

For starters, the “nice guy” tactic is bullshit. Please, look at these examples:

“Romantic comedies are nothing like real life, and using the tactics shown in them will only creep the object of your affections out, not win them over.”

“Do not awkwardly try to steal my clothing to put on your pillow and sleep with because it smells like me.”-ms_hyde_is_back

“I became friends with a guy who, within a week of meeting, confessed his love for me. I turned him down, reminded him I was dating someone, but said I didn’t mind hanging out.He would not stop bringing up the idea of us dating, called us soul mates, asked about our hypothetical future kids, would manipulate me into hanging out with him, and mentioned that his dad told him to never give up, so he wasn’t going to stop. I stopped hanging out with him.”-Magikats

Yikes, man. He brought his dad into this? Jesus H. Christ. Well, as you can see, things that might seem charming in a romantic comedy are, in fact, very creepy in real life. That’s the first problem: creepiness.

Problem number two with the “nice guy” is that sometimes, a woman simply will not be attracted to a certain man, and if she is not attracted to that man, it’s just not going to work out. But the nice guy seems to have a difficult time understanding this concept. See below:

If I’m not attracted to you, you will only ever be a friend.-highly_caffinated

Yeah some people just make you feel really happy when you’re around them. That’s another thing that pisses me off about nice guys, they try to be with people they have zero chemistry with. It’s not happening dude move on.-somuchwalrus2121

Women are not vending machines that you can drop kindness coins into until sex falls out.-BilliousN

So, the second problem is a lack of attraction and chemistry that the nice guys fails to accept. And here’s a bit of psychology for ya: humans weirdly want something more when they can’t have it, which might explain why nice guys (and everyone else) tend to aggressively pursue a woman who does not return their affections. 

In conclusion, don’t be a nice guy. It will get you nowhere. Instead, be a kind guy. That will take you places. 

Thank you and goodnight.