Here’s Why Women Call Men ‘Daddy’ In Bed

We finally have an explanation for the popular papa fetish.


(Photo: Getty)

Are you familiar with the whole “daddy” thing that many, many women are into? You know, when the woman you’re sleeping with takes a good look at you and whispers “Come here, daddy,” or something? Yeah, that.

More Maxim Videos

Maybe you’ve experienced it firsthand and your girlfriend calls you “daddy” when she’s sitting on your dick, or perhaps you’ve heard it in a movie, or basically any Lana Del Rey song. 

Daddy? Where??

But no matter where you’ve heard it, you know it exists, and you know it’s a huge trend. HUGE. 

But what does it mean when a woman calls her man “daddy” during sex? Is it some Freudian thing and she’s literally thinking about her father when she’s having sex? Or is it some kind of affectionate pet name, similar to “darling” or “babe”? 

What does it mean???

To help bring some answers, VICE spoke with several sex therapists to help us understand why women enjoy calling men they’re banging “daddy,” and why many men are turned on by it.

Sex therapist Vanessa Marin says:

“Yes, ‘daddy’ can mean ‘father,’ but we also use the word to indicate when someone is the boss, in charge, a protector, or doing a good job. That’s usually the meaning women are going for in the bedroom. It’s a bit of a ’70s porn cliche. I’ve never run across a woman who called her partner ‘daddy’ because she genuinely liked fantasizing that he was her father.”

Well, that’s good to know. So it’s not a Freud-style fetish 99 percent of the time. And it’s not about daddy issues, either, so yay! It’s all about this evolutionary attraction women have to strong, masculine men. Perfectly natural, and actually quite hot.

But then again, let’s not forget the remaining teeny-tiny sliver of the daddy-fetish population – the ones who literally pretend they are in a father-daughter relationship, but with some really, really kinky sex. For example:

Princess parts?? Oh boy.

Are you cringing as hard as I am? I don’t know what’s going on with that. But hey, if you’re into the hardcore daddy stuff, kudos for living your life.