This Is the No. 1 Reason Women Want to Have Sex With You, According To a New Survey

No, it’s not your Winger muscle-T.

Sex Study


Let me ask you a question: Why do women have sex? What are their reasons for wanting to get naughty with you?

I know what you’re probably thinking. “Duh, women have sex because they’re horny.” 

Uh, yeah, but have you ever thought about why they get horny, and what motivates them to have sex? As in why they get hot and bothered for a dude?

In the past, one particular study managed to identify 237 distinct reasons why people have sex, and it included things like “I wanted an orgasm,” “I wanted a promotion,” and “I wanted to feel closer to God.” 

All super valid, I guess. Especially that last one. Everyone wants cum so hard that they black out for a sec and ascend to heaven.

And now, a recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found a narrower set of reasons why women want to bump uglies with you, and they’re actually not all that remarkable. You can probably guess what they are right now, but let me explain the study anyway.

For the study, researchers gave a group of 510 women a list of 140 different motives for having sex, and asked them to rank those reasons based on how likely they’d be to have sex for that specific reason in the context of a committed relationship, or a casual encounter. Are you following? Good!

The results revealed that, unsurprisingly, the most common reason for a woman to have sex with a casual partner, a.k.a. a total rando in a bar or something, is because she thinks he’s hot. To better explain, here are some of the most popular answers:

  • “I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.”
  • “The person’s physical appearance turned me on.”
  • “I was horny.”
  • “It feels good.”

Honestly, no surprise there. We’re all in the pursuit of pleasure, after all.

However, when a committed partner was involved, women said their reason for banging it out was more for emotional reasons rather than physical. Some of the most popular answers included:

  • “I wanted to show my affection to the person.”
  • “I wanted to express my love for the person.”
  • “I desired emotional closeness.”

And so, as you can clearly see, women want to have sex with you for two reasons:

  1. She’s single, you’re hot, and she wants to ride that D train all night long.
  2. You’re already dating her, and she wants to show you she loves you by sitting on your dick. 

The more you know, my friends. 

H/T: Lehmiller