News alert for all of you parents out there: The next time you change your kid's smelly diaper, make sure you ask for permission. It's the only way to ensure your child consents, says self-proclaimed "sexuality expert" Deanne Carson.
The Australian made the comments on ABC News, where she outlined how the conversation with a stinky kid might go.
"I'm going to change your nappy now is that ok?"
"Of course, the baby's not going to respond, 'Yes mom, that's awesome. I'd love to have my nappy changed.'
"But if you leave a space and wait for body language and wait to make eye contact then you're letting that child know that their response matters."
Carson's suggestion hasn't gone over well with parents on social media.
Carson has responded to the backlash on Facebook and she's not backing down.
“I gave an interview the other day about teaching consent to young children,” she wrote on Fecebook. “Sadly, some people have chosen to ridicule me (oh no! Pink hair! Must be a lesbian!) and the notion of giving infants bodily autonomy (poo in nappies har har amiright?!)
For those people I’m posting this.
One in three girls, one in seven boys will be sexually assaulted by the time they are eighteen years old. One in twelve girls will be sexually abused before their sixth birthday.
The work we do with children, teachers and parents is international best practice in abuse prevention. It teaches children their rights AND their responsibilities and connects them with people who care and can help. It invites their parents into the discussion and is sensitive to cultural and family values.
Troll me all you want, add to your blog inches, but remember that when you do, you are negating the voices of these brave survivors of sexual abuse.”
While Carson makes a valid point about the importance of consent, it's getting lost in the impracticality of her suggestion. She's right; talking to kids about consent is good.
But asking babies for permission to wipe their ass is seriously dumb.
What do you think?