Kate Beckinsale Says Married Couples Shouldn’t Live Together

“I think more people would do well married if they didn’t have to live in the same house.”

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Living with a spouse could be detrimental to a marriage, according to Kate Beckinsale. The perennially gorgeous 46-year-old actress told Women’s Health as much in an interview accompanying her stunning new cover shoot.  

“I think more people would do well married if they didn’t have to live in the same house,” Beckinsale said. “Being married is kind of easy, but the living-with-the-person thing is a lot.”


As the New York Post notes, the Jolt star was married to director Len Wiseman from 2004-2016 and has a 20-year-old daughter, Lily, with Welsh actor Michael Sheen, whom she first met while touring a play in the 1990s.  

“I also think that for women especially — and this is generalizing — but I think it’s common for us to mentally subjugate our needs to whoever else is in the room,” she continued. “So if you’ve got a husband, a boyfriend, kids or parents, it’s so easy to come in with an idea of what you’d like to do, and then end up going, ‘Oh no, no, no, it’s fine.’ And it’s quite nice to not always have to negotiate that.”


Beckinsale also opened up about her public relationships with two men who are nearly as young as her daughter: 24-year-old comedian Matt Rife and 26-year-old Saturday Night Live cast member Pete Davidson

“If everyone’s shitting on you, it can make you kind of ugh for a minute – especially if there’s really nothing wrong,” she said. “If you’re strangling a squirrel or hurting someone, I get it, but living one’s life in a reasonably respectful manner shouldn’t invite anyone to get too excited.”


Though her romantic pursuits are constantly in the spotlight, Beckinsale isn’t about to let that stop from living the life she’s rightfully earned over a nearly 30-year-long career.   

“It can feel like a little bit of a political act to be a woman over 32 who is having any fun at all,” she said. “And by that, I don’t mean doing drugs and drinking and partying – because I never am – but being goofy, and going out, and not going ‘Omigod I’m going to sit home and anticipate menopause while crocheting.’ Unless you’re doing that, it somehow seems to be risqué, which is just kind of ridiculous to me.”


She went on to point to society’s double standard for hard-partying men of a certain age. 

“And I witness men constantly doing whatever they like — whether that’s in relationships, or deciding to buy a motorbike and getting a tattoo. It has not been interpreted as ‘Why hasn’t he had more children?’ or ‘Is he ever going to decide to become a parent?’ or ‘Why has he had so many girlfriends?’”


Recently, Beckinsale defended age-defying bikini pics against a lame internet troll who commented, “I feel like you are having a mid life crisis or something.” 

She brilliantly responded, “I think that’s because you’re an annoying asshole.”