As a sexually active adult, you already know that women are blessed with the ability to orgasm over and over again ad infinitum without needing to take a break to recharge, reload, and revive their naughty bits.
Likewise, as the proud owner of a penis, you know that, unlike women, you can’t do this…or can you?? Hmmm...
Common sense and conventional wisdom say no, you absolutely cannot cum more than once without a refractory period. Some people, however, beg to differ.
Since orgasms are fun and everyone deserves all the orgasms in the world, luxury sex toy company LELO put together a little guide on how to make the impossible possible, and explained some very interesting methods for those who want to experience the big-O twice in a row.
I must admit, I'm still fairly skeptical that men are multi-orgasmic, but nothing is impossible in this weird world. If man can go to the moon, man can have multiple orgasms.
And so, here are 5 ways to have multiple orgasms, all with a little extra research from yours truly.
1. Taoism and Ejaculation Control
Taoism, or the “Way,” is based on the idea that there is a natural order that one can achieve by living in harmony with the cosmos and the universe, and according to the Tao, sperm should be kept inside of you and not shot into a condom or onto a woman’s back or anything, because jizz is a “vital energy depositor.”
The belief that you shouldn’t cum has led Taoists to develop different ways to lose your boner and make your cum go back to where it came from, in order to avoid losing that 'vital energy.'
Some of these techniques involve straight up stopping sex, a.k.a. coitus interruptus, putting pressure on your perineum (look it up if you don’t know what this is), and “conscious contraction of the muscles of the perineum itself.”
So, all things considered, Taoist sex doesn’t actually allow you to orgasm multiple times. It just delays it a million times, but that's cool too, if you're into it.
2. Tantra and the ‘Valley Orgasm’
For a lot of people, tantric sex is a complete joke. Even though it means 'the weaving and expansion of energy,' the whole point of tantric sex is not to have an orgasm, but to become a massive jumble of body parts with your boo. I mean, you’ll cum eventually, but it isn't the point of having tantric sex.
LELO points out that “tantric sex is based on a protracted contract between the two partners, which does not necessarily imply sexual intercourse as we usually mean it; physical contact of the penis inside the vagina for long enough to trigger a sort of ‘chemical reaction’ between the bodies of two partners leads to a feeling of enjoyment that pervades the whole body, called the ‘Valley Orgasm’ to distinguish it from the climax orgasm we are accustomed to.”
Damn, that was a lot. Let me break it down into simpler terms: With tantric sex, you don’t blow your load when you orgasm. Instead, you have some sort of mystical, emotional orgasm, and then you cum per usual when you feel like it. So, in essence, you have multiple orgasms.
Hmm…what do you think of tantric sex? Is it actually mind-blowing?
I don’t want to shit on anyone’s personal beliefs, but glacial sex doesn’t sound very thrilling to me. If you’re into that stuff, go right ahead and give it a try. Just stick it in her and don’t move, and see what happens. I’m sure if you wait long enough you’ll cum…right?
3. Do kegels
Fun fact: Kegels aren’t just for pregnant ladies and old people who pee a little when they sneeze. Honestly, kegels are awesome, and you really should start doing them if you haven’t already.
By doing kegels, you strengthen your pelvic floor muscles and condition your junk to obey your commands, therefore are better able to ward off unwanted orgasms and send them back to your balls until you’re ready for them.
To do kegels, all you need to do it clench your buttcheeks over and over again for as many reps as you can, a couple times a day. You can literally do them at your boring desk job, and no one will ever know.
4. Use sex toys
OK, this one is going to sound a little weird, but stay with me. Right after you orgasm, you’re going to want her to stop touching your dick and just let you do you and slip into a post-coital coma, but if you fight off urge and use a sex toy to maintain arousal, you just might have another orgasm. Doesn't that sound nice?
If you're like "Nah, I'd rather take a nap," then this doesn't apply to you. But if you're interested in giving this tactic a try, simply put a vibrator to your perineum or wherever you like to be touched, and maybe, just maybe, you'll discover a whole new side to sex you never knew existed.
5. Have some fun with your prostate
A lot of dudes are really against butt stuff, but did you know that there's something called a prostate orgasm? Yup. You can totally get off and have orgasms from butt diddles. Surprise!
To have a prostate orgasm, you can use toys, her finger, whatever, to stimulate your man gland -- but it goes without saying, any kind of butt stuff needs a lot of lube to feel good, so don't skimp on that. Good luck out there, my dudes.