Nobody likes a “nice guy.” Men who are genuinely good and nice are awesome and women love them, but Nice Guys (note the capitalization), are annoying wannabes who try to get into the pants of attractive females by spending their time kissing ass and being excessively clingy, thereby creating the illusion of kindness and vulnerability.
As we all know, this type of person just wants to get laid, but by being the way they are, they do not get laid. In fact, they inadvertently become celibate, simply because the Nice Guy vibe is a massive turnoff to every single woman in the world.
And just as Nice Guys never get laid, two separate studies found that genuinely nice guys actually date more people and have way more sex than everyone else, because all the hunnies out there are hot for selfless, emotionally available men. Not selfish Nice Guys.
You can learn more about why nice guys actually finish first (both literally and figuratively) in the video below:
Psychologist Dr. Jesse Marczyk told The Independent: “The men who tend to get stuck in the friend-zone might not be attractive enough on their own (physically, socially, or otherwise), and so try to compensate for their shortcomings by investing in women more than their peers. In other words, they might use kindness to try and make up for what they lack elsewhere.”
So, Nice Guys oftentimes (always) get shunned to the hellish limbo known as the friend zone initially because they’re not very attractive, which is why they try to overcompensate for their shortcomings by being excessively attentive to a woman's every whim without being asked to do so.
And by being this way, they think their fake thoughtfulness will get them out of the friend zone and straight into her panties, but sadly, it always backfires.
An expert on the topic, Dr. Robert Glover, says Nice Guys use the logic of trying to form "covert contracts" with women, and that “others typically do not realize these contracts exist and are often surprised when the Nice Guy lashes out at their failure to keep their end of the deal."
This means that the Nice Guy thinks the target of his affection owes him sex, but in reality, she was literally never interested in him in the first place, and when she turns him down, he suffers from a case of extreme butthurt and turns real nasty.
Now, not that I'm calling you a Nice Guy, but if you ever happen to find yourself in the friend zone, Marczyk recommends doing something actually productive to increase your chances of finding your way out of there, instead of trying to be her best friend and digging yourself further into the limbo.
“Go to the gym, groom yourself more, get a good job, increase your social status; generally do more of the things that person finds attractive. When you bring more to the table yourself, your options improve,” he explains. "Alternatively, make your intentions clear from the start and if they aren't returned, don't wait around.”
Now that is some good advice, my friends. If a woman isn't interested in you from the start, odds are she never will be. Don't waste your time trying to win her over. Besides, you're never going to be happy in the friend zone. “By definition here, one party wants more from the relationship than they're realistically going to get. That's a formula for disappointment.”
H/T: The Independent